Taming the Tongue – Part 3

18 November 07


1.      Introduction:

·   The words we agree with in our hearts and speak with our mouth shape our future.

·   James 3:2-5  -  “We put bits in horses mouths that they may obey us”.

The tongue is like:

1)      Bit in horses mouth.

2)      Rudder on a ship.

         The words we speak forth control the direction our life takes.

·   E.g.  Numbers 14:28  -  “…just as you have spoken in my hearing, I will do to you”.

·   Note: 

i)        Joshua 6:10  -  Israel forbidden to speak (negatively) prior to miracle.

ii)       Luke 1:18-20  -  Zechariah forbidden to speak prior to birth of John the Baptist.


2.      There is Power in Your Words:

a)     Proverbs 18:21  -  “death and life is in the power of the tongue”.

·   Your ability to speak is part of the nature of God.

·   Your words carry power – to destroy or to build.

·   E.g.  Mark 11:21  -  Jesus spoke words to a fig tree – he cursed it and it withered and died.

b)     John 6:63  -  “The words I speak have spirit and they have life”.

·   Words that are spoken from the heart release “spiritual energy” into the atmosphere.

·   Words we speak can attracted the presence of demons or angels.

·   Words spoke create a spiritual atmosphere that motives are polluted.

·   Words are seldom “neutral” – they impart the ‘spirit’ of the person speaking.

·   E.g. Deuteronomy 1:28  -   “Our brethren have discouraged our hearts”.

-          Words spoken surface and reinforce issues people have in their heart.

-          E.g. offence, negativity, unbelief, gossip, slander.


3.      The Spiritual dynamic of “Put Downs”

·   “Put Down”  = a remark or act intended to humiliate or embarrass another person.

·   Humiliate = to cause a person painful loss of dignity, personal value, so they feel shame, embarrassment or self-conscious.

·   A major issue in NZ culture is “Put Downs”.

·   Put Downs can take many forms but all have similar character.

i)        Words are spoken – spiritually empowered by the heart of the speaker.

ii)       A spirit of murder / death is released against the person being put down.


·   Psalm 55:21  -  “Words of mouth were smoother than butter, but war was in his heart his words were softer than oil, yet they are drawn swords”.

·   Psalm 64:3  - “ Who sharpen their tongue like a sword, and bend their bows to shoot their arrows – bitter words”.

·   The roots behind put downs are bitterness, hatred and envy.

·   Hate is the root of murder – to deprive a person of life in any manner.

i)        Put downs are a form of cursing.

ii)       Put downs are an attack upon a persons identity to shame them.

·   People who have been put down  - tend to put others down (cycle of cursing)


4.      3 Common Sources of Put Downs:

i)        Family Dynamics:

·   Some families and cultures is filled with ‘Put Downs’.

·   Men put down woman, woman put down men, adults put down children.

·   Name calling.

·   Nicknames – especially if the person is gifted or different.

·   Abusive words.

·   Genesis 37:4-5  -  Josephs brothers hated him, could not speak peacefully to him.

·   1 Samuel 17:28  -  David’s brothers ‘put him down’ for coming to the battle.

·   Some cultures are filled with ‘violent’ put downs.

·   Put downs are a form of control.


ii)      Bitter Humor:

·   Joy is one of the characteristics of the Kingdom of Heaven

    – Romans 14:17

·   Humor = ability to see the funny aspect of a situation.

·   Humor can become ‘dark’ when used as a form of put down.

·   Nehemiah 2:19  -  “They laughed as to scorn and despised us”.

·   Ridicule = to make fun of a person with the intention of humiliating them.

·   Mocking humor or humor with a bitter edge “put people down”.

·   Luke 8:53  -  They ridiculed Jesus, knowing she was dead.

·   Jesus’ response:  “put them all out” – protected the environment so that the miracle of resurrection can happen.


iii)     Tall Poppy Syndrome:

·   Tall Poppy is a successful person or achiever.

·   Tall Poppy Syndrome = Lords or nations that put down or equalize them into who stand out above others because of excellence or achievement.

Origin – reaction to British class distinction, reaction to people who project an ego, self-importance or desire to impress others.

·   Evolved – reaction to any person who stands out from others as excellent or achieving in their field.

·   TPS is a manifestation of bitterness and envy.

·   Berry Franklin = “You cannot strengthen one by weakening another.  You cannot add to the statue of a dwarf by cutting of the leg of a giant”.

·   Envy = longing to possess what belongs to another.

·   Jealousy – feeling of resentment that someone else has gained something you feel entitled to.

·   Mark 15:10  -  Pharisees manifested -  TPS – envy of Jesus.

·   TPS manifest when another  person :

i)        gets a new car

ii)       gets promotion

iii)     succeeds

iv)    gets recognition

Who does he thing he is?  Probably cheated.

·   James 3:14  -  Bitter envying and selfish ambition => TPS.

·   1 Corinthians 12:26  -  One member is honored, all members rejoiced with it.


4.  Dealing with Put Downs:

·         “Put Downs” impart a spirit of murder that:

i)        Wounds the persons spirit.

ii)       Imparts shame – loss of value and esteem.

iii)     Destroys initiative and excellence.

iv)    Removes people from God’s positioning and shuts down their gifts.

·         How you respond? – determines the course of your life.

·         Two Options:

i)        Receive the words / spirit of put down, agree with them.

‘I’m of no value’.

‘I never do anything right’.

Once a person agrees with the Put Down words they come into agreement with the demons behind them.

·         They interpret all life / relationships through wrong belief.

·         Innocent comments, actions are interpreted as Put Downs.

·         Honest feedback is interpreted as Put Downs.

·         Person is in agreement with the “Shame Message”.

·         Need to:

-    Repent of Agreement.

-    Forgive and Bless those who cursed.

-    Establish boundaries to Put Downs.

-    Meditate on God’s Word.


ii)       Reject the Words / Spirit of Put Down:

·         E.g.  David;  Jesus; Nehemiah.

·         Agree with God’s Words – encouraged.

·         Minimize exposure to people who Put Down.

·         Establish supportive relationships.


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